Let’s stop demonising kids for sexting, and address the problem like adults

Some things that happen in adolescence are a given: regrettable hair cuts, a taste of heartbreak, accidentally drinking until you’re violently sick on yourself.

I would argue that, today, some form of sexting also makes this list – from the exchange of explicit text messages to the sending of the subtle and charming “dick pic”. Even when I was fifteen – which was a decade ago, at a time when Nokia phone cameras had all of about four pixels – my friends would happily drop 50p on sending a naked selfie to a crush.

Now, in a hyper-digital world, it has become almost as much of a rite of passage as a first skin on skin sexual encounter. The age at which kids do it might vary, but according to the NSPCC, one in seven UK 11-16 year olds have taken or sent a naked photo, with the actual number probably being much higher.

The thing about sexting is that, just like regular sex, while it will almost certainly happen, it can still have serious repercussions. You might not need to get the morning after pill or take a quick trip to the STD clinic for antibiotics, but the fear and sometimes the reality is that messages, pictures or videos will be seen by the wrong person. In some cases they may even end up disseminated on a much wider scale than could ever have been intended, let alone imagined.

While it’s right to criminalise adults who engage sexually with under 16s, the same can’t be said for young people having sex below this age. And yet, as currently stands, anyone under 18 who takes a sexually explicit image of themselves and shares it can be criminalised under UK child pornography laws.

That’s right, you can legally have sex 16, but cannot send a sexy photo until you’re 18, because the UK deems anything picturing someone under 18 as child exploitation. So, kids are being held liable for taking pictures of themselves, and can wind up on the sexual offenders’ register, as we’ve seen happen in some specific cases.

This is progress, but the debate around sexting rages on. Today UK Health Secretary Jeremy Hunt proposed a new approach to tackling the issue. Speaking to the House of Commons on the subject of suicide prevention, he expressed concern about the impact sexting can have on young people’s mental health. He called for tech companies to crack down on cyberbullying and sexting – and specifically what happens when the two are combined.

Ultimately, I think Hunt’s right to link the conversation about sexting to mental health issues. Speaking from experience, it can be anxiety inducing to keep up with the pressure to sext as a young person, and to look a certain way when you do. And fortunately not speaking from experience, I can only begin to imagine the psychological ramifications of having your pictures fall into the wrong hands – which, when you’re under 18, could mean anyone from from your classmates at school to a predatory adult.